Summer holiday thanks…

Summer holiday thanks…

I haven’t blogged much this year, but one thing I did want to document was how fab the summer holidays were this year… in more ways than one. Continue reading

Parenting – probably the hardest thing you’ll ever do!

Parenting

When you send them off to school having had words… how rubbish does that make you feel?

Reeeeaaaaally rubbish.

That thing with a tween when you ask and ask and A S K them to go finish getting ready and brush their teeth as they need to get going to school.

Yep – that.

Oh it’s so frustrating and annoying.

I don’t remember being like that, but maybe I was (I’m sure if my mum is reading this she’ll let me know) but there really is no sense of urgency – even at this age.

When does that kick in?

The thing about it is, it leaves you feeling so horrid.

And I’m pretty sure he feels pretty rubbish too.

It’s that pushing it and pushing it until I finally flip and shout!  I hate shouting, but sometimes it happens when I can ask no more and a switch is switched inside me and I lose it.

Then I feel eugh… and he feels eugh… we both feel eugh.

So the question here is, should all electronic equipment be banned from school mornings?  MasterB seems to have crept into the whole sitting and watching stuff on the iPad in the mornings.  Meaning he then puts off and off the going back upstairs to get read to get out the door! (that’s a shout-y voice by the way)

It’s something I’m considering because every single morning is the same and it’s tedious, it’s tiring and it makes me feel rubbish.

I’d love to know if you have to set ‘rules‘ for your tween on school mornings?

I love MasterB with all my heart, but boy oh boy can he be frustrating at times.

The good news is I can text him as he walks to school to let him know I love him and to have a good day.  Phew.  That makes me feel an incy wincy bit better, but there surely must be a better way.

This parenting thing sure is one of the hardest things I’ve ever done.

There, now I’ve got that off my chest, I shall continue with my day and await my gorgeous tween’s return from school … when we start it all over again.

Is it too early for Blush?

Carpe Diem x

What I’ve learned being a parent to a nearly 11 year old…

What Ive learned as a parent to a nearly 11 year old

Parenting is an ever-evolving learning cycle.

You think you’ve cracked it, but little did you know the next big thing is about to hit you right in the middle of the face!  Boom!!  And off you go again.  Into the unknown once again.

As our darling MasterB turns 11 towards the end of the month, I thought I’d share a few of the top things I’ve learned along the way:

  • There is nothing as important as Minecraft!
  • You are embarrassing  just because you are his/her mother – end of!
  • Homework is a battle – get over it.
  • You should know where he/she has left his/her phone, iPod, iPad, headphones and anything else electrical that is used on a daily basis.
  • On a similar note, you should know to ensure that all electrical devices are fully charged.  How could you possibly not know to charge them just when they are running out of juice and wanting to be used immediately?!
  • There is nothing as important as Minecraft!
  • The door will always be shut and you should cough and perhaps even knock before entering.
  • You should definitely learn that putting your clothes in the laundry basket is a totally ridiculous unreasonable request.
  • Music CANNOT be played at a reasonable level.
  • If your tween has friends over, do not under any circumstances attempt to make a joke – in fact it’s best to avoid all forms of communication and just let them be.  A difficult one I know, but trust me it’s for the best.
  • Your tween will definitely know how to download stuff from iTunes and the internet better than you.
  • Do not under any circumstances question whether teeth have been brushed for goodness sake!
  • Be prepared for the same conversation or should I say moan, each and every morning (or night) when attempting to get him/her in the shower.
  • He/she will tell it as it is – if you’re not looking your best, be prepared to be told, if he/she doesn’t like your hair, be prepared etc etc!
  • Kisses on the lips – few and far between.  Absolutely make the most of them when they do happen; they are precious.
  • There is nothing as important as Minecraft!
  • Your tween is not old enough not to throw a complete and utter wobbler!
  • Although nothing-else in your tween’s bedroom/playroom is played with, touched or even looked at, the mere suggestion that the lot could be got rid of is ridiculous!
  • You will not be called mummy in front of friends or when out and about.
  • Enjoyable family time is a rarity and as such one that should be embraced wholeheartedly when it does occur.
  • Even though your tween is nearing 11, you should still attempt where possible to let them win at board games.  The sulking really isn’t worth anything else trust me.
  • There is nothing as important as Minecraft!

… and finally

  • There is nothing in this world that compares to the love you have for your child (no matter what age) and when you get that rare and spontaneous cuddle and/or kiss and even those words that melt your heart ‘I love you mummy‘ it makes everything worth while.

I hope you’ve found this useful.

Enjoy your day!

Carpe Diem x

Disclaimer:  this is by no means an exhaustive list… trust me.


I’m linking this post with You baby me mummy and Mum’s daysThe List‘ linky…

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Is ten too young to get serious about homework?

The learning debate…

is 10 too young to get serious about homework

In our house recently, we had a discussion regarding working hard at school, taking more responsibility for yourself and the whole embracing homework as part of every day life as a school child and that it’s not going to go away so you might as well get on with it so that you can then go on to do other things in your spare time.


Where we live we still have a middle school system and MasterB being ten (11 in October and so one of the older children in his year) has just gone up to year six.

Now I’ll be honest, they don’t get a lot of homework – well certainly not so far they haven’t and most of the time it’s work that can be done, slotted in during the week around activities, or if not, completed at the weekend fairly easily.

Saying that, it’s always met with the same emotion…

Why do I have to do this?

It’s not faaaaair!!

They didn’t show us that in class.

I already know how to do that!

… and lots of sighs, banging around, lounging across the table to be told ‘Please sit up right and concentrate‘ and sometimes even tears (and that’s just me!).

As an aside, some people believe that children of this age shouldn’t even have homework

And don’t get me started on those tweenisms again!!

It’s all so painful.

The family discussion went along the lines of…

We’re very proud of you and how hard you work at school and you’re a really good boy, but you need to start taking a bit more responsibility for yourself.  You need to plan your time better.  Unfortunately throughout your school life you will get homework – it’s a re-cap of what you’ve learned in school.  It will help you to remember things better and help with exams which, unfortunately, are inevitable.

We know it’s a long way off and hard at your age to think about what you want to do when you’re older, but if you work hard at school now, you will have more choice in the sort of job you want, leading on to having the sort of life you want.

We want you to be the best you can be.  To fulfill your potential and not just do the bare minimum – go above and beyond.  We’re not expecting you to be top of the class, but want you to do the best for yourself.

It was quite a meaty drawn out discussion that encompassed other things too, but that’s the basis of it.

We all agreed that MasterB would take more responsibility for himself including packing his own school bag the night before, planning out time for homework as well as reducing his amount of time gaming each day.

All good.

A few days later I met up with a couple of friends with boys of the same age (and in fact at the same school) and the topic came up in conversation.  We had mixed views, though none of us claiming to know the right answer, but all just doing what we think is the best for our children.

The question then arises, are we being too hard on him at the age of ten? 

Ten is still very young – they’re still children at the end of the day.  Should they be feeling bogged down with school work and homework and the pressure of doing well at school at this young age?

Are we being hard on him, or just wanting the best for him?

After all some children/teenagers need a bit of pushing and encouragement to put that extra bit of effort in and can go on to do really good things.  We’re thinking MasterB might be one of these.

Some of the children in his year are currently preparing themselves to take the Grammar school test (not an option that MasterB wanted to take, which we supported his decision in by the way) and they are studying soooo hard.  They’re the same age and yet have the desire to want to do really well at school even at this young age.

It’s hard though isn’t it; knowing what’s the right thing to do.  Do you just let them ‘be‘ and find their own way at this age, or give them a bit more direction and help?

I’d be really interested to know other people’s thoughts on this subject.

I’m not sure there is a right or wrong – it’s probably down to the individual child but as always this parenting thing is as difficult as ever.

Carpe Diem x

When your tween decides to join in with the conversation…

Last night we went out to eat as a family, mostly due to the fact that our kitchen is currently being reinvented (a post about that will be coming soon once it’s finished *squeals*), but also as it’s the holidays it’s nice to go out as a treat every now and again.

Lovely… you’d think.

But that moment when you all sit down at the table and your tween folds his arms and has that face on.

You know the one?

The ‘I’m completely totally and utterly bored with this (already) and to be honest with you feel embarrassed to even been seen with you both.  The meal will no doubt completely and utterly under-whelm me and I can’t wait to get back home to my computer’.

Yep that one.

Oh great I thought to myself, I’ll have to make conversation with MrD whilst MasterB sits there sinking further into a tweenism – Oooh I just made that word up and rather like it.

But it all changed once the conversation turned to what we would be doing in the October half term – this includes his birthday.

Suddenly, MasterB came to life and I’d go so far as to say joined in rather excitedly.

It doesn’t really matter what the conversation was about, it was just sooo nice to see him animated, chatty, even smiley.  Hooray!  It made the whole dining experience so much more pleasant and I felt we all bonded as a family a bit more too.  It was like we were out with the younger B when he used to love going out to eat and would chat away the whole time.  Our happy lovely boy.  These days we’re lucky to get a nod in acknowledgement and a grunt here and there.

It seems that these tweenisms are inevitable and we just have to accept them for what they are … try to think back to when we were that age and have plenty of Blush on hand.

All joking aside, it was lovely to see my darling boy happy and chatty – yay!

My fun loving boy

My fun loving boy…

Are you having to deal with tweenisms?  How do you get through them… chocolate? wine? deep breaths?

I’d love to hear from you.

Carpe Diem x