DanTDM – YouTuber


I can honestly say, I’ve just had one of the most stressful half hours of my life!

True story…

Would you believe that DanTDM is a YouTuber – yes, that’s his actual job, it’s what he does (who’d have thought) and for those with children and tweens who are into, dare I say the word, Minecraft, they will know this young guy well I’m sure.

Just to put you in the picture DanTDM (don’t ask me what the TDM stands for because I have absolutely no idea) has 590k followers over on Twitter and over 10 million subscribers on YouTube *gulps* – now that’s a lot!

Stampy is long forgotten and these days it DanTDM all the way… MasterB even styles his hair on Dan’s and wants to go blue in the summer hols!!

Anyway the point of this is Dan announced his first ever tour earlier in the week and it’s all MasterB has been talking about since.

Looking at the dates, the only one we could make due to holidays was his last date in Milton Keynes, about a two and a half hour journey for us from home.  But I thought ‘what the hell, it’s something he’s excited about and can be an end of school year well done treat‘.

Little did I know the pressure I would be putting myself under!!!

The site was due to go live at 10.00am this morning and I was sat ready with my credit card to get straight on there and purchase the best seats I could possibly buy.

10.00am – site not live!

10.01am – site still not live!!

10.02am – site still not live – stressing now!!!

10.03am – site live!  Go, go, gooooo!!!!

I went straight to the Milton Keynes date matinee performance – SOLD OUT!  OMG what was I going to tell B?  I knew he wouldn’t believe me when I told him I literally got on the site as soon as it went live.  He’d think I was like blaaah blaaah blaaah bimbling around.  Aaaaarrrggghhhhh!

Quick thinking, made me look at the evening performance (the very last performance – is that what you call it, I have no idea?  I mean who ever thought I’d be buying tickets to go and see/watch a YouTuber on stage fgs?  What’s he going to be doing?).  No evening performance tickets left or VIP tickets (where the kids get to meet their hero with apparently a whole host of other cool stuff) – meanwhile I tweeted DanTDM (@DiamondMinecraft) in my panic and he replied with ‘VIP tickets sold extremely quickly!!‘ – you’re telling me!!!

Dan suggested trying the venue’s website directly for tickets as he believed they still had some left, so I swiftly opened a new tab and navigated my way around to find the show on the right day at the right time and …… Yippeeee I managed to nab myself TWO TICKETS in the stalls.

Woohoooo I cannot tell you the relief I felt.  I would be able to tell MasterB what a wonderful mother I was with my dedication to the cause and had secured two, not too bad, seats for DanTDM’s first tour!!!

Phewie!  A cup of tea was called for – had it been later than 10.30am in the morning I might possibly have poured myself a glass of Blush!

So Milton Keynes look out for us in August when we hot foot it up for the DanTDM first UK tour!

I will of course let you know how the DanTDM show/performance/thingy goes… but in the meantime if you tried to get tickets but didn’t manage to, my commiserations – I feel your pain.

Carpe Diem x






What I’ve learned being a parent to a nearly 11 year old…

What Ive learned as a parent to a nearly 11 year old

Parenting is an ever-evolving learning cycle.

You think you’ve cracked it, but little did you know the next big thing is about to hit you right in the middle of the face!  Boom!!  And off you go again.  Into the unknown once again.

As our darling MasterB turns 11 towards the end of the month, I thought I’d share a few of the top things I’ve learned along the way:

  • There is nothing as important as Minecraft!
  • You are embarrassing  just because you are his/her mother – end of!
  • Homework is a battle – get over it.
  • You should know where he/she has left his/her phone, iPod, iPad, headphones and anything else electrical that is used on a daily basis.
  • On a similar note, you should know to ensure that all electrical devices are fully charged.  How could you possibly not know to charge them just when they are running out of juice and wanting to be used immediately?!
  • There is nothing as important as Minecraft!
  • The door will always be shut and you should cough and perhaps even knock before entering.
  • You should definitely learn that putting your clothes in the laundry basket is a totally ridiculous unreasonable request.
  • Music CANNOT be played at a reasonable level.
  • If your tween has friends over, do not under any circumstances attempt to make a joke – in fact it’s best to avoid all forms of communication and just let them be.  A difficult one I know, but trust me it’s for the best.
  • Your tween will definitely know how to download stuff from iTunes and the internet better than you.
  • Do not under any circumstances question whether teeth have been brushed for goodness sake!
  • Be prepared for the same conversation or should I say moan, each and every morning (or night) when attempting to get him/her in the shower.
  • He/she will tell it as it is – if you’re not looking your best, be prepared to be told, if he/she doesn’t like your hair, be prepared etc etc!
  • Kisses on the lips – few and far between.  Absolutely make the most of them when they do happen; they are precious.
  • There is nothing as important as Minecraft!
  • Your tween is not old enough not to throw a complete and utter wobbler!
  • Although nothing-else in your tween’s bedroom/playroom is played with, touched or even looked at, the mere suggestion that the lot could be got rid of is ridiculous!
  • You will not be called mummy in front of friends or when out and about.
  • Enjoyable family time is a rarity and as such one that should be embraced wholeheartedly when it does occur.
  • Even though your tween is nearing 11, you should still attempt where possible to let them win at board games.  The sulking really isn’t worth anything else trust me.
  • There is nothing as important as Minecraft!

… and finally

  • There is nothing in this world that compares to the love you have for your child (no matter what age) and when you get that rare and spontaneous cuddle and/or kiss and even those words that melt your heart ‘I love you mummy‘ it makes everything worth while.

I hope you’ve found this useful.

Enjoy your day!

Carpe Diem x

Disclaimer:  this is by no means an exhaustive list… trust me.

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Is ten too young to get serious about homework?

The learning debate…

is 10 too young to get serious about homework

In our house recently, we had a discussion regarding working hard at school, taking more responsibility for yourself and the whole embracing homework as part of every day life as a school child and that it’s not going to go away so you might as well get on with it so that you can then go on to do other things in your spare time.

Where we live we still have a middle school system and MasterB being ten (11 in October and so one of the older children in his year) has just gone up to year six.

Now I’ll be honest, they don’t get a lot of homework – well certainly not so far they haven’t and most of the time it’s work that can be done, slotted in during the week around activities, or if not, completed at the weekend fairly easily.

Saying that, it’s always met with the same emotion…

Why do I have to do this?

It’s not faaaaair!!

They didn’t show us that in class.

I already know how to do that!

… and lots of sighs, banging around, lounging across the table to be told ‘Please sit up right and concentrate‘ and sometimes even tears (and that’s just me!).

As an aside, some people believe that children of this age shouldn’t even have homework

And don’t get me started on those tweenisms again!!

It’s all so painful.

The family discussion went along the lines of…

We’re very proud of you and how hard you work at school and you’re a really good boy, but you need to start taking a bit more responsibility for yourself.  You need to plan your time better.  Unfortunately throughout your school life you will get homework – it’s a re-cap of what you’ve learned in school.  It will help you to remember things better and help with exams which, unfortunately, are inevitable.

We know it’s a long way off and hard at your age to think about what you want to do when you’re older, but if you work hard at school now, you will have more choice in the sort of job you want, leading on to having the sort of life you want.

We want you to be the best you can be.  To fulfill your potential and not just do the bare minimum – go above and beyond.  We’re not expecting you to be top of the class, but want you to do the best for yourself.

It was quite a meaty drawn out discussion that encompassed other things too, but that’s the basis of it.

We all agreed that MasterB would take more responsibility for himself including packing his own school bag the night before, planning out time for homework as well as reducing his amount of time gaming each day.

All good.

A few days later I met up with a couple of friends with boys of the same age (and in fact at the same school) and the topic came up in conversation.  We had mixed views, though none of us claiming to know the right answer, but all just doing what we think is the best for our children.

The question then arises, are we being too hard on him at the age of ten? 

Ten is still very young – they’re still children at the end of the day.  Should they be feeling bogged down with school work and homework and the pressure of doing well at school at this young age?

Are we being hard on him, or just wanting the best for him?

After all some children/teenagers need a bit of pushing and encouragement to put that extra bit of effort in and can go on to do really good things.  We’re thinking MasterB might be one of these.

Some of the children in his year are currently preparing themselves to take the Grammar school test (not an option that MasterB wanted to take, which we supported his decision in by the way) and they are studying soooo hard.  They’re the same age and yet have the desire to want to do really well at school even at this young age.

It’s hard though isn’t it; knowing what’s the right thing to do.  Do you just let them ‘be‘ and find their own way at this age, or give them a bit more direction and help?

I’d be really interested to know other people’s thoughts on this subject.

I’m not sure there is a right or wrong – it’s probably down to the individual child but as always this parenting thing is as difficult as ever.

Carpe Diem x

The hormones and attitude of a tween…

The tween...

I’m actually feeling a little bit fed up.

I have a son, who seems to have forgotten that I’m actually his mother and in charge.

For some reason he seems to think that he is in charge and can do exactly what he wants when he wants and if I should dare to alter his plan, then oh my goodness!

It’s not a great phase to be honest with you – not one I am embracing at the moment.

The tween seems to be a teen already …

  • Doesn’t want to get out of bed (with the exception of the weekends of course).
  • Doesn’t want to go to bed – ever, at all, never, ever – nope this boy will never admit to being tired – even when he’s hanging.
  • STILL doesn’t know how to tidy up and/or put things away and if you should ask – well the look you receive is nothing short of a death stare!
  • The grunts are in a league of their own.
  • The rolling of the eyes are used at every opportunity.
  • If I should dare to enter his playroom (not sure he’ll even want to be calling it that for much longer) – the door of which is now firmly closed behind him – the laptop is immediately closed and I get a ‘YES?‘.  Like I’m some sort of intruder and how very dare I enter his private space.
  • If I should ask about the homework situation, I get a muttered reply to which I then have to quiz him more on, to which of course he takes huge offense and then tempers become a little fraught.
  • Sitting down and doing homework – well that again is another thing altogether.  It’s not something any of us enjoy in this house if I’m honest with you.  MasterB doesn’t seem to understand why he gets given homework and is not at all happy about the amount of his Minecraft time it takes up.  It never gets any easier.
  • Why is that no matter how long he’s been given to play his beloved Minecraft, it’s never enough?
  • When asked to do something, the response is
    • Come onnnnnnn, I’ve only just ….. ‘ blah blah blah whatever it is (naturally this is said in a voice with an attitude) or;
    • Give me two more minutes‘ – which never means two more minutes, for when the two minutes is up and you tell him the two minutes is up, he reverts back to ‘Come onnnnnn‘!!!
  • He actually thinks I’m his slave – I’m sure of it.  That I was in fact only put here for one reason and one reason only.  Clearly to run to his every whim and allow him to do exactly as he pleases. Grrrrrrrr!

I do believe that hormones are playing a big part in this change that we are experiencing right now, but at ten years old I was hoping for a little longer I guess.

I’m convinced he’s doing the teenager thing now already – all I can hope is that we get it over and done with and then the teenage years are a doddle.

Pffffft who’m I kidding?!  But I can hope can’t I?

Having said all of this, don’t get me wrong he’s not a naughty boy – in fact I know for a fact when I press the publish button on this post, I will receive numerous comments/messages saying something like:

Noooo, not Barnaby!!!

I don’t believe Barnaby would ever behave like that.

Surely not?!

Oh he’s not like that is he?  He’s such an angel and always does what he’s asked.

Now of course, I’m extremely happy that he’s a good, polite boy who does what he’s asked at school, at a friend’s house, or in front of family etc and I wouldn’t want it any other way.  The confusing part for me is why is he soooo incapable of doing this at home?

Anyone-else going through this?

After all… it’s safety in numbers eh?

A confused and slightly annoyed mum.

Carpe Diem x

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My interview with my tween son…

I decided it might be a nice fun idea to do an interview with MasterB.

Now a tween I thought it would be interesting to see things from his perspective.

So here goes.

These questions are fired at him across the table and the answers are non-edited (so in other words exactly as he answers them) …

1.   So, how old are you Barnaby?


2.   Do you know what your birth zodiac star sign is?

No *giggles* I do not know what that is.

3.   What’s your earliest memory?

When I was with Ellie and we were out at our old house and we were walky-talky each other.  We were about five or six.  Oh there’s an earlier one.  With Ellie again, it was snowing and we were on a walk with my dad and we were trying to get up this icy hill and he was ‘come on it’s easy’ and we were like ‘we can’t get up this hill’.  And then asked us ‘do you want to go on or do you want to start walking back?’ and we said ‘go on’ and then we started moaning.

4.   What pets do you have and introduce us to them.

I have a  dog and a cat and the dog’s name is Kipster she’s a girl and I do not know how old she is.  And our cat’s name is Dilly her real name is Delilah and again I do not know how old she is.

5.   Do you like school?

Ish… *giggles*

6.   What’s your favourite subject at school?

ICT (tells me this is all in capitals – errrr like I don’t know!)

7.   What is the first thing you think when you wake up in the morning?

Mummy stop getting me up violently!!! *giggles hilariously*

8.   What book are you currently reading?

The Boundless – it is amazing because it’s about a train and there’s this boy called Will and he is trying to escape two murderers who are trying to get the key to the billion zillionaires coffin and steal all the money.  This is all happening on the train.  I personally recommend it.

9.   What’s your favourite television programme currently on tv?


10.  What are your hobbies?

Playing Minecraft, playing Minecraft and playing Minecraft *giggles more*

11.  What’s your favourite colour?

Gold slash orange.

12.  What does your mum do and explain a bit about it (this’ll be an interesting one!!)?

My mum does the cooking sometimes and she’s the personal wash station and she is 48 years old and is the best mum ever even though she wakes me up violently in the mornings.

13.  What’s your favourite food?

I don’t know. Oh I know, chicken korma curry.

14.  Describe what your best day ever would be?

My best day ever would be going to Thorpe Park taking my dad on allllllll of the roller coasters and allll of the rides and making him quite scared coz I like seeing him quite scared and then we would whizz back to our house and then I would play Minecraft for an hour and then I would whizz off to London and would meet my second cousins and then we would whizz back here and then we would have lunch and then we would whizz back to Thorpe Park and then whizz back here and then go to the Grange Hotel in London and have a year’s stay there.

15.  Out of all the holidays you can remember, which has been your favourite and why?

Ummmmm, Kefalonia because we met a lovely travel guide person whose name is Mandy and she was really nice and it was memorable because we were driving through the mountains one time and we were in a hire car and we were running very low on petrol. There wasn’t a petrol station to be seen for miles and miles and miles. Yea that was the holiday ish.  We didn’t break down at least.

16.  If you could choose your own bed time, what would it be?

7am – only joking – no no no no – about ummmmm midnight.

17.  Do you do your homework as soon as you get home from school?


18.  If you had to save one possession of yours in a fire – what would it be?

Hmmmm now that’s hard.  My, ummm I really don’t know *shakes head*.

19.  Name one food you don’t like?


20.  If you were going out to eat at a restaurant and you could choose anything to eat, name the starter, main and dessert of your choice?

Starter would be ummm hmmmm starter would be bread sticks and humous.  Main course would be an Indian and then the dessert would be milkshake, ice-cream, milkshake, ice-cream.

21.  What does Christmas mean to you?

A lot of stuff – presents mostly and quality family time.

22.  How would you describe yourself in terms of your ‘style’?

Hmmmmmmmmmmm ummmmm *folds arms* good looking ish.

23.  How many Easter eggs did you get this year?


24.  What do you want to be when you are older?

A DJ, a Youtuber, a Minecraft player.

25.  How would you describe your home?

Cool , good looking, fancy, quality – yea.

26.  Being an only child, would you prefer to have a brother or sister, or do you like being number one?

Being number one – coz then I get all the attention and all the money from you *laughs*.

27.  Do you have any cousins?

Two – I do and three is it, second cousins and I can’t go any further back through the family tree because I do not know what else is there.

28.  If you could go anywhere in the world, where would it be and why?

Antigua because it’s very hot, its sunny, its amazing but I wouldn’t live there.  I would live in the UK.

29.  Which season do you prefer; winter, spring, summer or autumn and why?

Ummm *long pause* winter spring summer and autumn – can’t choose – all of them.

30.  What do you think about your mum writing a blog?

Coolio – it’s amazing I’m gob smacked.  She’s amazing, how many people see her blog every day I do not know and I love her.  Oh and you’re amazing too – make sure you put that ……

Wow, that was the funniest thing to do with him – bless his heart.

Some of the answers really made me laugh and some quite surprised me, especially number 18. Was sure he’d say his Xbox!!

What a gorgeous lovely boy we have – of course I’ve always known that, but this really has made me SMILE – thank you darling MasterB for accepting the challenge to take part in my ‘tween interview‘.

So, having answered my 30 questions I thought I’d share some fun pictures of the said tween with you.  These were taken down at the beach where our beach hut is and he was in a particularly silly mood …

MasterB full of it


Aww I love that special grin and those adorable freckles.

MasterB and Kipster

Funny boy

and finally…


He was in such a good fun mood and was posing for the camera which doesn’t happy very often as normally he’s moaning at me for always wanting to take photos of him.

Have you ever interviewed your child?  It’s great fun to do – why not have a go.

Carpe Diem x

Ps:  I’m not 48 either thank you very much MasterB!!!

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Bridging the gap between tween girl and boy…


When you have little ones, play dates are a must and quite often are more for the mummies than the little ones – although I’m sure in their own little ways they love them too.

During these play dates it really doesn’t matter whether you have a girl or a boy; as long as you the mummies have a bond that’s really all that matters.

A rare bit of sanity in a sometimes turmoil of toddlerisms, housework, possibly juggling work and being a good wife.  A time to sit down with a cuppa and quite often a piece of cake and share stories, advice and feel huge relief that it isn’t just your toddler that does that thing and it isn’t just you who feels that way.

However, as time goes on and they grow up a little, the divide between girls and boys widens.  They no longer want to play with each other.  The differences are too wide.  Too diverse.  And dare I say it, girls are more mature than boys much earlier.  So those mummy get togethers, impersonating a play date for the little ones, no longer happen where members of the opposite sex are involved.  A sad time.  A shame too that boys and girls suddenly aren’t such good friends as they were when it really didn’t matter if you were a girl or a boy and play was just play.

Fast forward to the tween years and I give you MINECRAFT!

MasterB and one of his friends playing Minecraft...

MasterB and one of his friends playing Minecraft…

For those not in the know, Minecraft is an on-line game that literally millions of children are addicted to (MasterB being one of them).  It’s an independent game with the most basic of graphics and I mean basic (an easy explanation is that it looks a bit like lego blocks), there’s no storyline and you won’t see it advertised. Children play it on the pc, Mac, Xbox 360 and mobile phones.

It’s literally just a virtual landscape where people dig holes to collect blocks.  But it’s what you do with your blocks that counts (apparently).  Actually to be fair this is where their imagination comes in to play – they can create anything from huge city landscapes to theme parks and mechanical working objects – the Minecraft world is their oyster.  All very clever really.

Admittedly when asked by MasterB to take a look around his world, it leaves me a little bemused by it all and wondering why the addiction.  Nonetheless as MrD and I have said before, at least he’s not asking to play one of those shoot um up type games where shouting and violence occurs in abundance.  So from that point of view I guess that’s a good thing.


This is also where the gap between tween girls and boys is bridged.  The girls seem to love this game as much as the boys and so we have girls invited back to our home again for play dates … well at least Minecraft fests!  It’s actually quite nice to see MasterB interact with girls and boys in the same way during their Minecraft sessions.  There’s certainly no prejudice in this department – boys and girls are treated equally.

I wonder how long this Minecraft obsession goes on for?  Another year; two at the most?

Then what will they be wanting to play and will the girls be as involved in it as the boys?

Carpe Diem x